When My Plans Become My God

Every couple begins marriage with dreams, expectations, and plans for the future. We imagine where we'll live, how our family will grow, what our careers will look like, and how God will work in our lives. A surrendered marriage is not defined by having every detail figured out; it is defined by two people who continually place their future into the hands of a faithful God. As husbands and wives seek His kingdom first, trust His direction, and patiently follow wherever He leads, they discover that His plans are always wiser, His timing is always perfect, and His calling is always worth the wait. 

Verses Used:

Proverbs 21:5

Matthew 7:19-20

James 4:13-15

Romans 2:16

Daniel 3:17-18

Jeremiah 21:11

Verses Referenced:

Proverbs 16:9

1st Corinthians 13:11

Genesis 41

Discussion Questions:

Icebreaker: What's something in your life or marriage that turned out completely differently than you expected—but you're now thankful it did?

1.   Are you naturally a planner or are you naturally unstructured with your plans?

2.   Why do you think we as people like having a plan? What happens when our plans change outside of our control?

3.   Read Proverbs 16:9. What do you think this verse teaches us about making plans? Does trusting God mean we shouldn’t make plans?

4.   How can a couple make plans together while still holding these plans loosely, knowing God can change them and redirect our steps?

5.   Is there an area of your life where you know what you want God to do, but you're struggling to say, “Your will be done”? How can your spouse support you in this?