Putting Off Our Old Selves

Paul calls believers to actively put to death the old sinful patterns that once defined their

lives and to embrace their new identity in Christ. Putting sin to death in marriage is not

about perfection, but about refusing to let sinful attitudes take root. As each spouse puts

off the old self and lives in their new identity in Christ, the marriage becomes a place of

greater safety, unity, and love.

Verses Used:

Colossians 3:5-11

Galatians 5:17,19

Colossians 3:6

Romans 2:5-8

Revelation 20:11-15

Colossians 3:7-8

1 Peter 2:9-12

Matthew 18:21-35

John 3:3

Colossians 3:9-10

James 5:16

Colossians 3:11

Romans 10:11-13

Luke 17:32

Discussion Questions:

Icebreaker: What’s one funny or silly thing your spouse does that makes you laugh?

1. In Colossians 3:5, Paul says to “put to death whatever is earthly in you.” Why do you think Paul uses such strong language?

2. How is “putting to death” sinful attitudes different from simply trying to control or ignore them? How can failing to put these things to death harm unity, trust, and intimacy in marriage?

3. In Colossians 3:10, Paul says the new self “is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its Creator.” What do you think it means to be renewed in knowledge and how can we make sure we are intentionally doing this?

4. Read Romans 12:2. How does growing in the knowledge of God lead to real change in your attitudes, desires, and actions — especially in your marriage? How have you seen God renewing you over time?